Some thoughts on marriage equality

I’ve been attempting to avoid the political posts lately – partly because I’m lacking the energy to debate (it’s rare, but it happens) and partly because as we get closer to the election, I know I’ll be a ranting and raving lunatic (consider this the calm before the storm). But with two big events this week, I felt the need to share my thoughts.

I was saddened on Tuesday night to read that voters in North Carolina passed an amendment stating that marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this state.

I am saddened that hatred, ignorance, and bigotry have won over acceptance and basic human rights. And I am saddened that hatred, ignorance, and bigotry have made so many people so blind.

The fight is certainly not over, and I do believe that in my lifetime we will look back on these events the same way we look back on the time before Loving v. Virginia.

Then, on Wednesday, Barack Obama, President of the United States of America, said outright that he believes “same sex couples should be able to get married.” Regardless of what you feel his motivation was and regardless of whether or not you agree with him on other issues (and seriously, who agrees with anyone all of the time?), this is HUGE.

We have a man holding the highest office in our country saying clear as day that believes in the basic rights of gay and lesbian couples. Huge, huge, huge!

Honestly, I fully believed this would happen. I fully believed that Obama’s “evolving” stance on same-sex couples getting married would reach the point of standing up for full marriage equality. I just didn’t think it would happen before the election.

I’ve seen several people comment about how this was just a stunt to get votes. I don’t believe that. I think this was more of a risk to him than it was a sure-fire way to get the “gay vote”.  And if it was some kind of ploy to attract more votes (which, um, kind of wouldn’t be surprising about anything regarding any politician considering that that’s kind of what they’re supposed to be doing during an election), I still believe he meant everything he said.

Overall, I think it’s been a positive week and I just hope we can continue to move forward.

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8 responses to this post.

  1. Well said, Dayle! I know a lot of people don’t support Obama, but it is nice to see him do something positive, trying to get us to move forward. I know people will still criticize but it still made me happy to hear him say. As for NC, that just stinks.


    • People will *always* find something to criticize, but the truth is even before this, he has done more LGBT rights than any other president and while I fully acknowledge that there is still a long way to go, I will celebrate every single step in the right direction . . . . and this was a freaking leap!

      What happened in North Carolina is disgusting sadly not surprising. People need to realize that you cannot put the *rights* of a minority up for a popular vote. They’re RIGHTS! But interracial marriage had to go through a lot of hell for a lot of years before bans on it were finally ruled unconstitutional. We’ll get there . . . I just keep hoping for sooner rather than later!


  2. I am inspired by what President Obama said, but David Cameron, the Prime Minister, has said that he believes in equal marriage not despite being Conservative but because he is a Conservative- happier people, stronger society, etc, etc, no-one getting hurt by the change at all. I am so glad that I live this side of the Pond.


    • Thank you for reading and commenting, Clare . . . and for pushing me to learn a little more about world politics (which, I shamefully admit I am not very well-versed on . . . how very American of me!)

      I feel like conservatism in the US has just gone completely off the deep end. It’s become equated with religious extremes and that has not always been the case. It’s sad.

      My boyfriend and I have had several conversations about moving to Europe! (Sadly, it’s all in fantasy!)


  3. Obama did take a *huge* risk. The Republican party has a way of stirring up the Evangelical portion of this nation. Last election’s health care issues was something that people of all faiths could accept. All issues with it were involving the financing of it and whether or not the government should be allowed to control health care. A neat side-step of any “social” issues broken down on the Evangelical/Rational lines.

    This issue though? Ouch. He has officially sided with the “sinners” according to the far right faction, and even to *some* of the middle road who might have chosen him over Romney. This will not make this election easier for him.

    Is it too late to let NC secede from the Union? Oh, yeah, wait, that was SC. Um…maybe we let SC secede and they can take NC with them? No? Yeah, I kinda like Asheville. Guess it was just wishful thinking.


    • People just want to find as many negatives as they can about Obama, so when he comes out and says something that many people will applaud him for, they try to detract from that by saying he *only* said it to get votes. Whatever his motivation was, I fully believe that he meant what he said and I stand behind him!

      As for North Carolina, I feel for those living there who didn’t vote for this. It maybe have passed by a “majority” but I think it was like 60%, which leave 40% who voted against and that’s a hell of a lot of people to leave unhappy about such a big decision!


  4. I, too, was so happy with Obama. And am so happy that he was brave enough to do this. Much better than the “don’t ask, don’t tell” era. A huge stride, in my opinion!


    • Exactly! The repeal of DADT was huge. Telling the Dept. of Justice not to defend DOMA was huge. And this is huge! This is definitely worthy of celebration!


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